"Tips & Hints".......Dressing to "Blend In"
In
all my years of dressing and wanting so much to be able to go out in public,
I never knew of the word "Passing". Yet still, once I knew it had
a "Word", the desire to pass was even stronger. But I still didn't
know what it was I was trying to accomplish.
I had read so much about dressing to pass, in the chat rooms and in sharing e-mail with other girls, and the one common denominator was to dress to "Blend in" with the rest of the world. So yes, that doesn't mean wearing stilettos, fishnets, a micro-mini, and a sleazy top to the mall! (Unless you really want to get looks*S*). The idea is to wear what every other girl is wearing, wherever it is you are going. And besides, it is a lot of fun paying attention to those details too*S*
When out and about in your every day life, pay attention to those around you, and notice what catches your eye as being "out of place", those sorts of things when it comes to how women are dressed. There really is a difference as to what to wear during the daytime, and during the evening, so pay attention to those details too. That will help you decide what to wear for your outings.
I have to thank Cynthia Cousens for her very kind words about me being "very passable". She was the first person who ever told me I wouldn't have any trouble going to the malls, and her words helped me continue my pursuit of public acceptance. She told me that a "big fluffy sweater and a pair of jeans" was the most passable thing in life. And she is right!
I know, I'm guilty too, of wearing my mini skirts to the mall. I can wear pants any day of the week, so when I want girl time, I do want it fun for me too. So with my mini, I'll wear sensible shoes and a nice sweater, a look which I think is OK for going anywhere. Besides, it is a look I seen hundreds of girls wearing every day!
When
I first visited Polo Park Shopping Centre over
a year ago, I had always worried that I'd have dozens of eyes following me
though the place, and when that didn't happen, that was my sign that it was
OK to simply be myself. Since then, I've been out in public many times more,
and with each time out, the feeling becomes so much more comfortable. I know
I get looks, but with them, I don't get bad feelings about "Why"
I'm getting the looks, which has been a great confidence booster.
I hope you have found this information helpful, and most important of all, I truly hope you find comfort in simply being yourself:-)
Sabrina
E-mail me at sabrina_markes@masquerade.ca
Member of the Winnipeg
support group - "Masquerade"